Diminishment
Diminishment is what happens when the person who should see you most chooses, over and over, to see others instead — until you begin to wonder whether the failure is somehow yours.
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Dating after divorce — yours,theirs, and what your children need
When a new relationship enters the picture — yours or your former spouse’s — the excitement is real. So is its weight on everyone around you.
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The anger we hide from ourselves
On the feelings we bury so well we forget we’re carrying them — and the quiet cost of pretending we’re fine.
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Coping mechanisms
Everyone living through a hard marriage finds ways to manage the pain. The question is not whether you are coping — you are. It is whether you are steering it, or it has quietly begun to steer you. On the coping mechanisms everyone recognizes, the ones that hide in plain sight, and how even good things can become places to hide.
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Navigating relationships during divorce
The choices you make during a divorce — about your children, your community, and yourself — will outlast almost everything else about it. Some of the heaviest things people carry out of a divorce are not what was done to them, but what they did in response. On protecting your children’s love for both parents, resisting the pull to build a tribe, and choosing integrity over the vindication you may never receive.
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Victim mentality
If you love someone who is always at the water’s edge — keeping a careful record of every wrong done to them, finding someone else to blame for every difficulty, unable to move past their grievances — this post is for you. On what victim mentality is, why it is so hard to leave, and what you can do.
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Boundaries
A boundary is not a wall. It is a statement of what you will do — for yourself, with your own life — when love and limits have to live in the same sentence.
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The years are not lost
On the illusion of perfection, the wreckage that breaks it, and what we have come to believe about the years it cost us.
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I never knew
A phrase that came to us in a dream, before there was anything to describe.
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Trauma and betrayal
When the person you trusted most becomes the source of your pain, your body and mind respond in ways you may not recognize. This post is about what trauma is, what betrayal trauma is, and what it asks of you.
