Dating after divorce — yours,theirs, and what your children need
When a new relationship enters the picture — yours or your former spouse’s — the excitement is real. So is its weight on everyone around you.
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When your former spouse moves on
You thought you had made your peace with the divorce. And then they found someone, and you discovered a part of you hadn’t quite.
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The anger we hide from ourselves
On the feelings we bury so well we forget we’re carrying them — and the quiet cost of pretending we’re fine.
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When church is hard
The silence that feels like judgment, the shame you carry in by yourself, and the quiet way a faith community can become the very place your story finally helps someone.
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Navigating relationships during divorce
The choices you make during a divorce — about your children, your community, and yourself — will outlast almost everything else about it. Some of the heaviest things people carry out of a divorce are not what was done to them, but what they did in response. On protecting your children’s love for both parents, resisting the pull to build a tribe, and choosing integrity over the vindication you may never receive.
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Boundaries
A boundary is not a wall. It is a statement of what you will do — for yourself, with your own life — when love and limits have to live in the same sentence.
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Sometimes you have to sell the farm
The same discipline that keeps you going through hard times can become the thing that keeps you from making the decision that needs to be made. Knowing when to persevere and when to let go — that is the harder wisdom.
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The cows still have to be milked
Self-reliance is not grit for its own sake. It is the quiet confidence of someone who knows they can show up — even when it costs them — and one of the most important things you can bring to a marriage.
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Self-reliance
Self-reliance is not about distrust, or selfishness, or preparing for the worst. It is one of the most loving things you can develop — for yourself, for the people who depend on you, and for any relationship you hope to build.
